“I discipline my body and keep it under control, lest after preaching to others I myself should be disqualified.” (1 Cr. 9:7)

Growth in self-control can often be greatly helped by a focus on the rewards that it will yield. Self-control is, in fact, not far removed from the concept of self-discipline—that same kind of mental drive that motivates athletes to get up earlier, push harder, dream up new challenges, and go back to the gym day after day after day. And that kind of self-discipline isn’t just punishment. Over time, it has a way of becoming an extremely important blessing to us.

I love meeting or hearing about people in their 60’s and beyond who remain exceedingly active and healthy—who are walking or biking or lifting weights or doing yoga every day, and who’ve been doing that for many years. In conversing with such people, they almost always end up saying the same thing: “At this point in life, my day just doesn’t feel right if I skip it.”

That little observation shows us one the blessings of self-control: That it’s not only good because it helps us obey God’s rules, but there’s a life-giving power about it. In the same way that self-disciplining the body brings helps us just feel better, self-controlling our spiritual life (which is to say, our WHOLE life) brings about a deep kind of joy—an underlying steadiness that is difficult to describe, but which leaves us “just not feeling right” when we neglect it.

Self-control in regards to our spending, our eating and drinking, our words, our sexual activity, our emotions, our time, and our thoughts… largely boils down to being deliberate. Decisive. Purposeful. Intentional. And in order to truly make the most of that and receive all of its accompanying blessings, we’d do well to take a disciplined approach to life. It leads to a peacefulness that runs deep—a life-giving peacefulness that some might even say “surpasses understanding.”

- Dan Lankford

This past Sunday, one of our brothers led us in a song whose lyrics have been known to Christians since the second century. Since it was probably unfamiliar to most of us, here are the lyrics again, to allow for some time to really reflect on them.

Shepherd of tender youth,
guiding in love and truth
through devious ways,
Christ, our triumphant King,
we come your name to sing
and here our children bring
to join your praise.

You are our holy Lord,
Christ, the incarnate Word,
healer of strife.
You did yourself abase
that from sin's deep disgrace
you might now save our race,
and give us life.

You are the great High Priest,
you have prepared the feast
of holy love;
and in our mortal pain
none calls on you in vain;
our plea do not disdain;
help from above.

O ever be our guide,
our shepherd and our pride,
our staff and song.
Jesus, O Christ of God,
by your enduring Word
lead us where you have trod;
make our faith strong.

So now and till we die
sound we your praises high
and joyful sing:
infants and all the throng
who to your Church belong,
unite to swell the song
to Christ, our King!

The Catholic pope is unquestionably one of the most powerful religious influences in the world. Of course, his power is as illegitimate as the strange fire offered by Aaron’s sons (cf. Lv. 10:1-3), but it does have enormous impact. And so, when a pope dies and his successor is chosen, it’s worth at least a few moments of consideration from Bible-believing Christians.

Pope Francis reigned (notice that I did not say served) from 2013 to 2025, and his reign will be remembered for a handful of things almost entirely related to his doctrinal liberalism, or at least his doctrinal ambivalence. The popes are considered the successors of the apostles and the authoritative source of all doctrine, which makes the most memorable statement of Francis’ administration all the more memorable: Early on, when asked about his position on homosexuality, he infamously said, “Who am I to judge?” The obvious answer is, “You’re the pope!” And yet, that sort of non-committal response became his usual way. He spent his time hinting that the Church needed to ‘catch up with the times’ and move in a more liberal direction. That, along with the seriously problematic concept of the papacy in general, is how almost all conservative, Biblically-minded Christians will remember him.

Whenever a Pope dies, the next question is always, “What will the next one be like?” And while there’s no way to know, it is worth thinking about.

The new pope—number 267—who has chosen Leo XIV as monarchial title, is a figure largely unknown. He may be a picture of stability, offering little or no change to the Catholic way. Or he may turn out to be noticeably more conservative or more liberal than his predecessor. We, along with the rest of the world, will have to watch and see.

And I think that we should. I think that we’re wise to at least pay attention to their activities, as the Catholic Church does contribute to global events and trends. It is an earthly kingdom with an outsized influence, and if we’re going to be “wise as serpents,” then we shouldn’t put on blinders and just act like it doesn’t exist.

Make no mistake: The pope’s authority is heretical and illegitimate. He is not the mouthpiece of Christ for the modern world. He is not a monarch of Christ’s kingdom on Earth—Christ himself said that he is king, and that his kingdom is not of Earth (Jn. 18:33-37). But it does have great power among religiously-minded people all across the globe, and knowing its trajectory can still help us reach out to them as we try to guide all people to a complete knowledge of the truth. Catholicism is a grand structure built upon a foundation of false teaching, and so we pray for its ultimate undoing. But in the meantime, we pray for it to accomplish some good in the world, no matter how small that may be.

- Dan Lankford, minister

“Do This And Your Kids Will Never Talk Back to You”

“Parents With Well-Behaved Kids Do These Three Things Every Day”

“Six Things To Do Now So You Don’t Raise Spoiled Kids”

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Parenting advice abounds in our world. We’re all looking for some kind of click bait that will make it easy, peaceful, and successful. But parenting is a process. There’s no quick path from immaturity to maturity. Period. That’s not because we fail to understand parenting; it’s because it always takes a long time to ‘bring up a child.’ And for the prime example of that, I submit, for your consideration, God’s own process of bringing up his son, Israel.

In the beginning, God treated Israel like one treats a baby. He carefully protected them, carried them, fed them, and nurtured them (cf. the Exodus and the wilderness). As they grew, he instructed them in how to behave and what ‘manners’ of life to develop (cf. the Law of Moses). He also disciplined them when they disobeyed. As they grew further, he taught them how to be wise, to make decisions based on more than black-and-white do’s and don’ts (cf. the wisdom lit.). When they became estranged from him like adult children sometimes do to parents, he hung his head and mourned, and he let them suffer the consequences of their choices (cf. the Exile). And then finally, when he was ready, he revealed himself to them as he truly is—making it possible for the relationship to reach full maturity (cf. our place in Christ).

If it took God a long time to raise a childlike nation to spiritual maturity, then we shouldn’t be discouraged that it takes a long time to raise our children. So keep going, mom and dad. Keep teaching, keep praying, and keep believing that God’s way works.

- Dan Lankford, minister

Critics of Christianity often accuse the entire religion of being a patriarchal religion, saying that it de-values and denigrates women and gives men privileges which they don’t deserve. So, here’s a question for us to consider honestly: Are they right?

The answer is partially yes and partially no. They are correct that Christianity is a patriarchal religion. That simply means that it relates to a patriarch—a father. And of course, God is that Father.

But to the rest of the claim—the one about de-valuing women, etc.—God’s own words retort with a strong ‘no.’

While critics would claim that men are given preference in the historical narratives, the reality is that plenty of women are given the chance to prove themselves faithful, and they do it (Jochebed, Miriam, Ruth, Priscilla, Deborah, Phoebe, etc)! Additionally, there are plenty of men and plenty of women who prove un-faithful—whose faithlessness and selfishness ruins the lives of those around them. Overall, the stories are surprisingly balanced, portraying both men and women as mixes of good and bad. While critics would claim that men are privileged in the early church, both genders play important roles there and in Christ’s life—as prophetic voices, as evangelistic pioneers, and as generous servants.

I realize that many of these responses gain no credence with a world that is decidedly bent on opposition to the Bible. But I still find encouragement in God’s grace and his appreciation for both men and women in Scripture. And I’m truly, deeply grateful to God for the faithful women, both then and now, whose lives have shone brightly as lights in this dark world so that others might glorify our Father who is in heaven (cf. Mt. 5:16).

- Dan Lankford, minister

Ben Franklin listed thirteen personal virtues for life. The first one said: “Eat not to dullness; drink not to elevation.” Franklin was not a Christian, but that self-prescribed advice has both practical and spiritual value. It distills the principle that excess—whether of food, drink, luxury, sex, entertainment, comfort, etc.—is not healthy. We are much better off with a governing amount of self-control.
 
Excess dulls our minds. Like a bear waking up from hibernation, our minds become groggy, weary of the work required by life and relationships. And this can’t be the state of people who take every thought captive to Christ (2 Cr. 10:5), who know how to answer each person (Co. 4:6), and who continually prepare our minds for action (1 Pt. 1:13). We are called to have clear minds with strong wills tuned to serve God skillfully.
 
Excess dulls our spirits. Jesus was forever telling us that people who need something respond best to him (cf. Mt. 5:3, 19:24, etc). But if our lives are glutted with all sorts of comforts and indulgences, what will we feel that we truly need? What will cause us to desire Christ and not simply acknowledge him? It takes a certain degree of ‘soul hunger’ to desire the spiritual fullness that he offers (cf. Mt. 5:6). Excess doesn’t lead to that.
 
Therefore, we practice self-control. We choose contentment. We shouldn’t torture ourselves with starvation and the like, but we would each be wise to self-impose some moderation—to stop eating before we’re full; to fast and pray; to put marital sex on pause and devote ourselves to prayer; to just walk in some less comfortable shoes once in a while. And we should be generous, letting go of our excesses (God once condemned the Northern Kingdom after its fall with these words: “she… had pride, excess of food, and prosperous ease, but did not aid the poor and needy” [Ez. 16:49]).
 
Over time, those of us who practice the wisdom of God will eventually develop an aversion to excess. Not that we’ll resent all comforts, gifts, and blessings; but that self-control will make us averse to what leads to dullness. It teaches our hearts and minds to need only that which will truly satisfy: God.

- Dan Lankford

The hospitality industry. An inhospitable environment. Southern hospitality. “Thank you for your hospitality.” What’s the key to making that core concept work as it should? Plain and simple: it’s about people.

Hospitality is a Christian virtue because fellowship—a word that means sharing, participation, connection—is a Christian virtue. Hospitality’s not about a house; it’s about people. It’s not about prestige or extravagance; it’s about people. It’s not about entertainment; it’s about people. It’s not even about proper etiquette, cleanliness, dishes, serving, or recipes (cf. Martha [Lk. 10:38-42]); it’s about making genuine, sincere connections with people.

I have been around church families where it was said, “We just don’t really do hospitality. It’s not really our thing.” But there are two big problems with that: 1) That’s essentially just shrugging off one of the Spirit’s commands, essentially saying to God, “We’re simply not interested in doing the thing that you’ve asked us to.” And 2) It betrays disinterest in people—those who are God’s and therefore our siblings in faith, as well as those who are lost and who need our evangelistic guidance to be saved. If we are truly God’s children, we cannot be possessed of a casual, dismissive attitude toward those who are made in his image.

So let’s all look for opportunities to show hospitality—to ‘love strangers,’ sharing what we have with them, welcoming them into our homes, our hearts, and our lives. It’s an expected, commanded part of the Christian life.

“Do not neglect to show hospitality to strangers, for thereby some have entertained angels unawares.” (Hb. 13:2)

- Dan Lankford, minister

I suppose it’s slightly different for everyone, but I know that for many people, the idea of some kind of ‘success’ doesn’t even call to their hearts any more. It sounds too daunting, too distant, too elusive, and frankly, too hard to be worth it. But, as the title of this article says: Succeeding at most things is easier (and easier on us) than failing at them.

Think about it: Which is easier in the long run? To put in the extra effort required to turn in assignments on time? Or to procrastinate, then still be required to finish and also to deal with your regrets?

Which is easier in the long run? To do the maintenance on the car when it’s due? Or to ignore it until it’s too late and face the larger expenses of repairs?

Which is easier? To obey your parents with a respectful attitude? Or to disobey, make excuses, mouth off… only to suffer the consequences, plus still have to obey the original command?

Which is easier in the long run? To make healthy food and exercise choices? Or to indulge day after day and eventually live with preventable-but-now-incurable health problems?

Which is easier? To train up a young child in the way he should go? Or to try and persuade him to change his wrongful ways once he is old and will not depart from them?

Many things in life—our careers, our relationships, our finances, our homes, our grades, and others—require extra effort in order to succeed. But it’s worth it. Failure forces us to work, but choosing diligence leads to success. It’s actually easier to succeed than to fail.

“The hand of the diligent will rule, while the slothful will be put to forced labor.” (Prv. 12:24)

- Dan Lankford, minister

As a 90’s kid and a public-school attendee, I vividly remember the D.A.R.E. programs and the “Just Say No” campaign. These were anti-drug abuse programs that encouraged children to exercise self-control and, “Just say no to drugs.” According to them, overcoming the temptation to use drugs was that simple, “Just say no.” In more recent years, those programs have been roundly criticized for their ineffectiveness. Ultimately, they just didn’t work. 

Typically, people take one of two extreme positions on self-control; either it is as simple as just saying, “No,” or we are incapable of truly controlling ourselves. Yet, I believe the Bible paints a more balanced picture than that. Here’s what it teaches us…

First, it is possible for us to not only exercise self-control, but to gain self-control. Everyone has moments in which they control themselves and subdue their passions, but Peter seems to be talking about something more impressive than this when he advises us to add self-control to our faith (II Peter 1:6). He means that this can become a part of our character. We can become the kind of people who, as a rule, control ourselves.

Secondly, self-control must be added. The big mistake of the “Just Say No” campaign was the assumption that all school aged children naturally came equipped with remarkable powers of self-control. Peter indicates that self-control doesn’t come naturally. We’re not wired that way. It’s something we must add. The natural state of man is not defined by inner strength, but weakness. As Jesus cautioned His apostles, “The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak” (Matthew 26:41). 

Thirdly, self-control is a fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23). That means this quality is added to our faith when we are filled with the Spirit. So often we seek to add self-control by simply trying harder to “Just Say No,” and yet the best way to add self-control is to focus on filling ourselves with the Spirit letting the word of Christ and His glorious Gospel fill our hearts (Ephesians 5:18). When the Gospel fills our hearts, self-control is the inevitable result. 

- Jonathan Banning

Recently, the world was given a great spiritual insight from a surprising source: Disney’s Mufasa. Here’s the truth that one of the songs laid out: “If you wanna go fast, go alone. But if you wanna go far, we go together!” Now, that is some surprisingly Biblical wisdom!

Throughout the Torah, God was trying to teach his people to care for the poor, the orphan, the widow, and the immigrant among them. But again and again, those people were neglected by the well-to-do among Israel. Why? Because, in one preacher’s words, “Kindness is inefficient.” It slows us down in life if we care for those who are needy, elderly, impaired, or weak. And yet, God didn’t guide his people to grow fast in the land they were going to possess; he guided them to “live long in the land” (Dt. 5:33, etc.). If he had wanted them to go fast on the road of life, they would have to ignore many fellow travelers. But he wanted them them to go far, so he taught them to go together.

Throughout the New Testament, the same is true: God wanted the Christians to go far in life; to become a kingdom that would never be shaken (cf. Hb. 12:28). And so, rather than filling his letters full to bursting with strategies for fast growth, hostile takeovers, and cultural transformations from the top-down… he talked to them about how crucial it was that they remain united. Their togetherness is one of the key topics in Romans, 1st Corinthians, Galatians, Ephesians, Philippians, Colossians, 1st Thessalonians, Philemon, Hebrews, James, and 1st John.

And of course, Jesus himself is the perfect example of this. How much more could he have gotten done in his lifetime if he just 'didn’t have time for' the disciples and their foolishness? What if he had left them and gone to seek out better followers who would learn quicker, be more spiritually-minded, and have more influence? Wouldn't that seem like the more efficient use of his time? Actually, yes. But kindness is inherently inefficient, and Jesus' patience with the disciples is an important part of how he turned twelve ordinary men into the authoritative mouthpieces of his new, heavenly kingdom.

“If you wanna go fast, go alone. But if you wanna go far, we go together!” That sometimes tests our patience. It often requires us to forgive. It occasionally seems like wasted effort. But it’s one of the keys to being God’s people and ‘living long in the kingdom he has given us to possess.’

- Dan Lankford, minister