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“Add To Your Faith | Self-Control and Its Nuance”
Categories: Add To Your Faith | 2025
As a 90’s kid and a public-school attendee, I vividly remember the D.A.R.E. programs and the “Just Say No” campaign. These were anti-drug abuse programs that encouraged children to exercise self-control and, “Just say no to drugs.” According to them, overcoming the temptation to use drugs was that simple, “Just say no.” In more recent years, those programs have been roundly criticized for their ineffectiveness. Ultimately, they just didn’t work.
Typically, people take one of two extreme positions on self-control; either it is as simple as just saying, “No,” or we are incapable of truly controlling ourselves. Yet, I believe the Bible paints a more balanced picture than that. Here’s what it teaches us…
First, it is possible for us to not only exercise self-control, but to gain self-control. Everyone has moments in which they control themselves and subdue their passions, but Peter seems to be talking about something more impressive than this when he advises us to add self-control to our faith (II Peter 1:6). He means that this can become a part of our character. We can become the kind of people who, as a rule, control ourselves.
Secondly, self-control must be added. The big mistake of the “Just Say No” campaign was the assumption that all school aged children naturally came equipped with remarkable powers of self-control. Peter indicates that self-control doesn’t come naturally. We’re not wired that way. It’s something we must add. The natural state of man is not defined by inner strength, but weakness. As Jesus cautioned His apostles, “The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak” (Matthew 26:41).
Thirdly, self-control is a fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23). That means this quality is added to our faith when we are filled with the Spirit. So often we seek to add self-control by simply trying harder to “Just Say No,” and yet the best way to add self-control is to focus on filling ourselves with the Spirit letting the word of Christ and His glorious Gospel fill our hearts (Ephesians 5:18). When the Gospel fills our hearts, self-control is the inevitable result.
- Jonathan Banning
